Practicum Post–Moving Through Change

If you are going through a time of change, large or small, try this ritual as a starting point for moving in trust with your deep wisdom and that of the world around you.

Choose a time when you will be undisturbed for at least half an hour.  Find a place that feels safe and comforting to you, yet also open in some way.  If you are in a bedroom, leave a window open.  If you are outside, lean your back against a tree, but keep your eyes open and look out to what you can see from here.  The idea is to feel supported but not enclosed.  You are letting yourself and the world know that you know there is something new happening here, something new at play, and you are leaving room for this consciously.

Spend some time just observing.  Try to sit or stand still.  You are getting a sense of what things look like from the vantage point you have chosen.  Keep your eyes open.

When you have spent at least fifteen minutes observing, not trying to change what you observe in any way, now look around you with the intention to find one object that represents your life as you have known it before the change.  It could be a hairbrush.  It could be a fallen twig from a familiar tree.  It could be a stone that represents to you things that endure.  It could even be a piece of your hair.  Whatever is at hand is fine.  You are not going on a quest here.  You are finding something that is available to you *now*, to represent the solidity and familiarity of the place you have been in before the change.

Hold this object in your hands.  Let it become for you an anchor.  Let it hold in imagination everything you knew or thought you knew, all of the safeties and opportunities offered by this place you have inhabited for what may have been a very long time.  If it helps you, you can move the object around in your hands, caress it.  Get to know it very well, and imagine that it also knows you.

Now you are going to find a place for this object in your present environment.  As you move through this time of change, you are not yet where you are going to be.  Nothing is settled.  As you place the object, keep this in mind.  You are not trying to figure out where your old life fits into your new life.  You are simply laying down what you have already known, and you are placing it within your present environment which you have chosen because in some way it gives you a vantage point on spaciousness.  A window is open, and changes are blowing through.  Let the rock, or hairbrush, or twig, become a part of what is being moved by the new air.

You don’t need to do anything else.  Even if you think you know what this change in your life will bring, don’t try to symbolically represent this.  You are open as air right now.  You may feel as insubstantial.  If you need, you can return, now or later, to hold your object again and remember the feeling of solidity it represents.  Then lay it down again, and each time you do, pray or intend that the breath of the new may connect with it and make it part of what is coming, what is changing.  Remember to keep observing and keep opening windows, literally or symbolically.


About Jayleigh

Drawing on experiences within women’s spirituality groups for the past ten years, as well as experiences of creating group ritual within these spaces, I am passionate about bringing the healing and enlivening power of ritual to individuals and communities. I believe that the roots of ceremony lie deep within all of us. Our bodies and hearts know these ancient ways of connecting with each other, with our deepest selves, and with our earth. My work centers around helping people remember ceremony and incorporate it into their lives. My business, Incorporating Ritual (, is a vehicle through which I offer consultation services for creating self-designed ceremony as well as facilitation of ceremonies for life events personal and communal, large and small.
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